Who are you?

Posted by Ventures Online on Fri Oct 09 2020
“Commitment is a statement of what ‘is’. You can know what you’re committed to by your results, not by what you say your commitments are. We are all committed. We are all producing results. The result is proof of a commitment.”- Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, and Kaley Kemp.

I invite you to take a look at your life as it stands right now. Your current health. That is what you are committed to. Your current finances. That is what you have committed to as well. The status of your current relationships… Well, I’m sure you get my point by now.

Have a seat. This is a lesson on priorities.

Mahatma Gandhi said, “Action expresses priorities”. So saying, for example, “I’m going to start a business” doesn’t count, however, actually starting one does. So, as it would seem, talk IS cheap.

Priorities are activities that you focus your energy on, on any given day. These are the things that you say “yes” to every day. Intuitively, we know that our choices have implicit opportunity costs. By saying “yes” to, for example, logging onto Facebook you are implicitly and explicitly saying no to every other thing you could have spent this time on. Whether that be schoolwork, taking a walk, cooking, or spending time with your loved ones. The list is infinite.

Dr. Benjamin Hardy paints an eloquent picture of how our actions are self-signaling, meaning that with every choice that we make we are in turn signaling to ourselves the type of person that we are. This then solidifies our identity. Our identity over time becomes our personality. He says “ Whatever decision you make you will conclude that I am the type of person who does XYZ”. If I choose to exercise every afternoon, I will conclude that I am the type of person who exercises every afternoon. If I say I am going to start exercising tomorrow and tomorrow comes and I do not do that then I am signaling to my psyche that I am the kind of person who does not keeps my word. And so it continues until I make a decision to change and commit to it.

This is the reason you hear people say things like “ I’m not a morning person” or even, “ I’m not really the entrepreneurial-type. I prefer corporate life.” Of course, there’s nothing inherently wrong with either one of these things. My point is you are probably not a morning person because it’s not a priority to you. You don’t value waking up in the morning. You would be an entrepreneur if it’s something you truly committed yourself to.

Dr. Benjamin Hardy said “ show me what you say yes to and I will tell you who you are. So then I ask, who are you?